Okay so my blog has been about sex and dating, etc. but I’m not going to write about sex if I’m not having any. My inspiration as of late has been self love mentally, emotionally and physically. And today I want to focus on the physical aspect of self love because it is easy to overlook caring for your physical body such as eating healthy, hobbies, talking to friends, when you’re busy. Then we have our sexual being. Maybe for some of you, this is not a problem, you have a sexual partner(s) that fulfill your needs. Maybe you want to explore a more personal satisfaction. The body is an amazing creation that is actually pretty easy to tap in. Here are some tips for some solo satisfaction no porn needed.
Also known as an erotic massage. It’s the art of the sensual touch for arousal or to bring sexual pleasure. Our skin is the most overlooked and underrated organ of the body. Skin should be apart of our sexual stimulation and exploring that is an exciting thing. The massage involves touching every part of your body including your yoni (vagina). It’s especially important to notice the parts of your body that arouses you the most such as you nipples or your inner thigh. Spend some more time touching and rubbing those spots. Last but not least be sure to breathe full deep breaths while you’re exploring. So Reaching in deep through your nose and out through your mouth, this keeps your body open and your mind focus on your body and the sensations you should be in tune with.
My favorite step by step guide is from Mind Body Green and Devi Ward Tantra. Their methods worked perfect for me while I first started out. Ultimately my goal was to reconnect with myself and not rely on porn to get off!
What I love about sex toys are that they’re catered to everybody. But if you’re single like yours truly, toys are a great way to fulfill any fantasy. Im not going to go into detail on toys since I’m saving that for another post but here are the types of toys I love for making orgasms.
- Clit & G spot vibrator
- Wand Vibrator
- Clitoral Stimulator
- Love Egg Vibrator
- Rabbit Vibrator
I had to include a good ole sex story because nothing is better than using your imagination versus watching a porn video. The only reason why I believe this is great because reading allows you to build to the orgasm you want. If you read the mind body green article I linked, the most important part of getting to the best part is to allow yourself to slowly get to the orgasm. Porn is more of a quickie for me but a good story with descriptive writing and a good plot makes me “slowly” horny. Check out Sex Stories and Literotica.
My go to when I don’t have time to myself is water play. Water play for those who don’t know is simply using the water for clitoris stimulation. After a long day I like to light a candle make sure my tub in clean and just lay in the tub while the shower is on and you know the rest ;). It’s even better when you have a removable shower head. The warmth from the water is so relaxing. It’s a perfect scenario for a uninterrupted pleasurable time.
Overall, find time time explore your body and you may just discover something amazing like a mind blowing orgasm. Also, be sure to do your own research as far as techniques and try them out til you find you’re match.
If you have any tips or suggestions feel free to let me know I’m the comments below.